It’s certainly been a mad world this week, from the weather to the people and their insecurities and lies.
It’s horrible how something coming at you from nowhere can suddenly derail you, especially when it comes from someone close to you. I can understand how people can be drawn down a very dark corridor when something like that happens, especially when the comments or actions come from a vision they alone perceive and has no truth in reality. Just a little private world of deception they have built around themselves, often from deep seated low self esteem but with no intention of seeking help; “I’m not going to be telling a stranger about my personal life” …
When their friends and family have tried to help, but been met with many repeated refusals, they themselves end up feeling pushed away and this creates an even wider chasm which is often hard to close, thus leaving the person even more isolated. It’s so frustrating because you just want them to try and see things from your perspective.
Sadly this is also the behaviour of a narcissist who has a lack of empathy and consideration for others and disregards their feelings.
The sub group “vulnerable narcissism” usually can be found in people who have experienced childhood abuse or neglect. As as result, they become ultra sensitive to people’s opinions of themself as they grow up and can end up feeling they deserve special trteatment, becoming rude or abusive if this doesn’t happen.
On a more positive note, I sent a text to someone earlier in the week to say that I don’t see life as 2 dimensional; at a minimum it’s 3D and it’s only by looking at life (both business and personal) from all slices of the pie that we can begin to understand different perspectives. This is really important and helps people to realise that I don ‘t see discussuions as negative. To me, they are important to help us build strong links with each other.
“What a lovely message. Thank you” he replied.
You’re welcome Sir 😉
