So what I hope will be a final postscript to this crazy week is a reminder to everyone that circumstances change, as do people’s feelings and emotions. Some people only walk our path for a period of time and unless the parting is mutual, it can get stressful. Sadly not everyone is capable of walking away from a relationship without causing problems, even if all they are trying to do is keep it going.
- Think carefully about who you share personal information with: yes you can block someone on social media or on the phone, but some just can’t take no for an answer and will buy a new sim card and/or create a new account in order to try and reconnect with you. If they know where you live and can turn up on your doorstep, be very careful who you let know where you live, especially if you are married or in any other real world relationship; you don’t need someone turning up on the doorstep and causing problems.
- Pause for a moment before sending that intimate photo: yes in the heat of the moment, it may feel right, but unless you are subsequently able to delete the pic before they have downloaded it, you may prefer to think twice. Yes they aren’t allowed to share pictures that have been sent in prviate without your consent but is your wife going to care when she’s seen it? Can you really trust that person and is it really worth it?
- Don’t leave a front door key lying around: it’s too easy for someone to assume they have a right to have a key to your front door because they come to stay. If in doubt, get the locks changed; I’m sure we all know someone that can do this for us.
- If you meet up after a break up, make sure it’s in public: a friend of a friend was arrested by the police because his former wife came round to try and patch things up (scantily dressed) then proceeded to rip her clothes and claim he assaulted her when he refused to be seduced.
I’m not trying to be the angel of doom here, all the above are the cruel realities people I know have faced / are facing today because of a break up or soon to be parting of the ways. It’s horrible having to think that someone has the potential to harass or hurt you after you have decided to part ways which in itself is stressful.
If you have any concerns about your safety, please do not hesitate to contact your local police and tell all your friends as well as they can support you. If you get threats, keep copies including screen shots as Apps can crash or have system updates that log you out and wipe data.
I am sure that what I have seen happening this week is just like three buses turning up at the same time, but forewarned is always best. Take care…
