Just chatting with PS, my South African friend about yesterday’s match and Peter Steph du Toit’s (PSDT) performance which earnt him the “man of the match” award. PS is a huge fan of PSDT and believes he is currently the best player in the South African side.
So we both think (hope) that PSDT will be nominated for IRB player of the year award; PS was surprised to learn that our Toto currently is not eligible as he hasn’t played for the French national team this year-we will have to see if playing for them in the autumn internationals will enable him to be nominated….
PS wasn’t able to watch the match live yesterday as he was at a wedding and when I asked him about how many brandies he had consumed (this is his “go to” drink), he explained that there was no hard liquor at the celebration meal as the bride was a recovered alcoholic.
I’ve seen quite a few people reach for the bottle when things go wrong / people don’t feel good about themselves in any way. I can understand the need to want to forget things for a few hours, however waking up the next day can be both painful (not many seem to remember to rehydrate before sleeping) and the issues are more than likely going to be there the following day.
From my perspective, I don’t think you ever recover from losing someone in your life, whether it’s a relationship break up or losing a parent. It’s hard to think that you will no longer be able to make more memories with them. Yes you’re going to shed tears today and tomorrow when you think of them and that’s OK; you have had a past together that is part of your journey in life.
If your issue relates to something that’s has come out of the blue or something you’ve forgotten about / been avoiding, please reach out to someone for help. Whether it’s that Self Assessment you’ve been dreading or the exhaust that has just fallen off the car, there is always someone who can help. This especially so if you’re a veteran; we have a couple of really great teams that have contacts across the country. They have helped people get a rental deposit sorted so their family didn’t have to live in a car; they have also helped people fix doors and windows when needed.
Yes this means you have to be vulnerable, but please never think of that as a weakness… when you were in the Forces for example, you were part of a team and were all there for each other; when you leave, you need to find a new team, but it’s something you’ve done before and can do again.
I had a mare on Friday submitting my annual accounts to Companies House; but this was just because it’s not something I do every day and know which part of the software accounting report needs to go where. But I did it and I know if I had a problem, there was someone I could turn to for help.
We are here for you, so reach out.
