When I first heard this song, it reminded me of the way an avoidant person’s walls fall down once they find the right person. Not in a rush nor in a blaze of drama, but in small, almost imperceptible steps. It’s something that is slow and careful, built on moments that are barely there until they start to accumulate. It looks like nothing much from the outside, yet underneath it is a constant, quiet shift.
Avoidants often keep their feelings at a distance, telling themselves they can control how close someone gets. But there is a kind of inevitability in certain connections. They test the waters, step back and have a think, then approach again, pull back then come back, not realising that each return carries a little more weight. It is the slow build that at some point becomes almost impossible to reverse.
The song’s pace captures that perfectly. It does not rush forward. It allows space between the beats, space that feels deliberate, and in that space something deepens. It is the pull that happens even when the avoidant is trying to hold themselves back.
You might never hear them say it out loud. You might never be shown the full picture. But sometimes, if you listen closely, you can feel it happening. Falling in slow motion.
I hear this song and it is you…
